We have all gone through some hardships or adversity in one way or another and while some may bounce back more easily, others may remain in a mental space that keeps them from feeling free from what has happened. What I have learned and know to be true in life is that there is an absoulte way to transcend or to say, go beyond the limits, exceed, or surpass things that feel difficult. We are capable of moving beyond what we may be experiencing and possess the ability to find the light within any struggle. Yes it takes an open mind and a wish to overcome however, it can be done. What keeps most people remaining in a mental state of sorrow, lonliness, feeling victimized, lost, broken, let down, and so forth is almost always their perception of these hardships. You see, if you change how you not only view the struggle however, along with it change your perception, you can and absolutly will rise above it. The following are 5 ways to transcend hardships and come out on the other side where light and opportunity reside.
The very first way to begin to rise past any hardship is YES the idea of acceptance. Acceptance of the situation and knowing the reality of whatever is going on is the very first step to making your way past it. The Opposite of acceptance is resistance and with resistance we meet with only more resistance, like a fish swimming up stream, which to me seems very futile. To accept is to take whatever the situation and accept that it is happening however, not in a passive, “bring more on” sense of the word. When we accept what is the exact reality we are experiencing we get to decide what to do next and decide to stay with it or change it. Once we look at where we are, NOT where we were, or where we “think” we will end up, we can take the moment we are in, accept it for what it is and make some decisions on what we want to do with it. Acceptance gives us the control to find resolution versus resistance.
#2: Know that You Have What it takes to get past it
A good way to realize or come to terms with knowing you have what it takes to get past your hardships is to do some self reflecting on the moments of your life when you have risen above or made it through a past storm. When something feels so hard that you may be thinking “I cannot do this. I cannot get out of this rut. I have no way and feel so alone.” you absolutly must try and remember a moment in your life when you made it past something that seemed at the time to be a permanant experience. Reflect back and remember that you got through it. This can be anything from a break-up, loss of a job, an illness, difficult financial time in your life, tough upbringing or something you maybe got yourself into and also got yourself out of. Reflect back and remember that with recognizing our strengths of the past we can re-visit and resurrect the skills and tools we found within to take us once again out from struggle. I only recommend looking backwards in efforts to pull tools of strength back out to the forefront and leave behind any negative memories of the past. The past should only be utilized for the reflection of beautiful memories, lessons and skills that were learned, and remember it is not meant to live in.
#3: Look for the Good Within it
Ooooooooo this is a tough one! How can we look for the good within struggle? I assure you that within struggle resides some form of good. It may not be easy to find it but if we are to search deep within the trying times of our lives we can pull at least one ray of light that came from it. Maybe it lead us to meeting someone very inspiring or special to us, perhaps we can find a hidden strength within ourselves, maybe the good we see and feel can be found in the appreciation of being alive, or in the camaraderie of another going through similar times, maybe the good within it is the idea that in the grand scheme of life the things we think are important are perhaps not, and this puts real perspective on what truly matters. Maybe we learned we can do better for ourselves than what was done to us and in knowing this we get to embrace better choices. When life hands us a “kick in the pants” it is time to wring it out, flip it inside out, turn it around, and pull even one strand of knowlege or light gained from the experience and when we do this the focus begins to shift and then we are on our way.
#4: Take Action
Action in the sense of the word may be in a physical and or mental sense. Taking action is the best way to begin to pave your way to better ground. This can mean anything from reading about others in similar situations, making a plan, reaching out to another for guidance, changing behaviors, or working on the self in any way, shape, or form. To take action does not mean all action has to be a giant leap or giant step and in most cases action is usually done in small progressive steps. Once we begin to take any form of action we immedialty, instantly begin to change direction. This is where opportunity, hope, and all kinds of things show up. Action leads to progress, and progress leads to fulfillment. In life, one of the best feelings that people love to know is that they are making some form of progress. Progress gives us a sense that we are headed in a different direction and it can provide a feeling of wanting to press forward even more. When we begin to step into what we do want for our lives, what we don’t want begins to take the back burner. Yes it may still be in our lives and yes we may be dealing with the issue however, as we step to either total change, adaptation, or solution, it is there we can begin to feel the burden lift. So take action even if only in the mind and with each step progress will be made.
#5 Keep an Optimal Vision in Your Mind
Sometimes the hardships we encounter are ones that are way out of our control and may involve things that are truly coming up against us however, even in these most difficult times we must look to the most optimal desirable outcome no matter what. This can be hard to do especially in the case if illness or injury however, if we keep our mind focused on the most optimal end result and keep our minds looking at the “what we have” versus the “what we don’t have” this can truly have an impact on the course of the situation. What ever the hardship is, as in the case of money, loss of love and so forth we must choose to keep a focus on what we want the end result to look like if we are to come through it. In a world that is proving with countless stories of the laws of attraction “what you focus on persists” this is something to consider. When we focus on the pain, the burden, the what is missing in our lives, it is all we see. When we focus on the dream, the desired outcome, the wish, the freedom from it and so forth, and we make this our vision, we will meet with success. One day it is then we can look back and say “PHEW” that was rough, but I made it!
Persevere! Amy 🙂